please be courteous this 4th. of July if you have a veteran in your neighborhood
This is something very very important which I’ve never thought about until now
This is EXTREMELY important and something that people need to consider when setting off their own fireworks. Getting permits and planning ahead help to ensure overall safety in general, but it also makes the situation safer for those with PTSD or whom may be affected by the fireworks for various reasons. This goes for New Year’s Eve as well, as I learned first hand a few years ago.
I was with my ex and his family for NYE. Just after midnight, my ex went outside to get something from the car. We heard fireworks going off a few blocks over shortly after he went outside. A few minutes passed but no one really thought anything of his absence, until his nephews came running into the main room laughing about how their uncle was being really weird on the porch. Of course I was concerned now, and as they spoke more about how he was acting, I realized what was happening. My ex’s brother-in-law and I went out to find him.
He was crouched down behind the porch railing, eyes wide and crazy, speaking into a non-existent radio.
You see, my ex is a Marine, who had seen combat during his tour in Afghanistan just over a year before. He and his best friend were both pretty messed up when they first came back. My ex had been one of my closest friends for years before we dated, so the fact that he had been suffering from PTSD since he returned was not new to me. I’d mostly seen it in his mild depression and drinking, though - I’d never seen him in a full blown flash back. His brother-in-law told me to stay inside and to keep everyone away from the porch door. A bigger guy, he knew he had a better chance of calming my ex down without someone getting hurt.
The fireworks - the sound and the flashing lights - had triggered those awful memories in his head, and he found himself, in his own mind, back in a war zone.
Please be considerate of others this Fourth of July. Yes, have fun, but be aware that you are not the only one hearing or seeing these fireworks, and that your fun can be a trigger for others.
and another! this one is on Alex’s booty. (at Forever Tattoo Parlour)
Moving out of state in less than a month and I couldn’t be happier. Time to start new.